How is your love life in the pandemic? How are you sailing through love in difficult times of pandemic?
Millions of people right now are struggling in their relationship, partly due to the pandemic, and partly due to other factors.
If you’re struggling to love in these difficult times, you’ll appreciate this article. We’re going to give you options to get out of the struggle and back into deep love.
In this article, I share a story of one of my clients, and what they’re doing to bring back love in difficult times.
“Let me start by making one thing clear; the pandemic itself is not the cause of relationship breakdowns or divorces”.
Now, there are underlying factors that come into play with regards to a couple who has not dealt with past resentments. The current displeasures could have been exacerbated by the pandemic, but not caused by it.
But my question for you today is, how are you doing if you’re in a relationship or you’re married during this time in your life? How are you keeping the love in difficult times alive in your relationship?
In the past three months, with my private practice, we have seen an abundance of couples struggling with love in difficult times severely, who are contacting me from all over the world to figure out whether they should stay or walk away?
It’s not an easy answer, and I’m not going to give one here in this article that you can walk away with to make your life easier.
You’re going to have to work at it, to see if your relationship is worth saving .
I just had a session with a brand new client, and he was trying to decide if he should divorce his partner or not.
But, I told him before he makes that decision, let’s get grounded and figure out how the heck did you get here? How did you let your relationship fall into dysfunction ?
If you’re willing to do the work for your love in difficult times, as my clients below will show you, there’s a good chance that many relationships could be saved right now.
Not all dysfunctional relationships, but many of them for sure!
So, how to save your marriage? How to bring back love in difficult times?
In my soon-to-be-released book, “50 Flavors of Erotic Love”, I talk about the need for couples to start being more open with their sensual desires and sexual desires after they’ve let go of their resentments they have against their partner.
It doesn’t make sense for a couple who is struggling to sit down and talk about how to make love in different ways, how to turn each other on when you have deep unresolved resentments that are going to get in the way of any progress moving forward.
So step number one will be finding a professional to start working with either one of you or both of you to:
Analyse what has led to the decline in love in difficult times, See if the relationship is worth saving. Find out logically, how did you get into this mess?
Here’s a testimony from one of my clients who was able to turn his relationship around with his wife by following my program which is also mentioned in the book.
“We had lost all communication, my wife and I, we rarely talked. If we did, it was always about the kids. And, we haven’t even kissed in over a year.
And this is a marriage that’s only three years old!
Communicate! It forced us to talk about things we never wanted to talk about and also desires that we’ve never shared with each other.
It’s a slow process, but at least we have guidelines to bring us closer together, which I know this will do it.
Thank God my wife couldn’t hold her desires back anymore to totally change our intimacy because if she hadn’t brought this up, I would’ve never gone in and worked with someone about trying to be more open, exposed, vulnerable and yes sexual.
From not even kissing to now 3 to 4 days a week, we cannot keep our hands off each other. It almost feels like we’re 21 again!
Pandemic is not an excuse to divorce
Please don’t use the excuse of the pandemic as a reason to divorce and give up on love in difficult times. Separate… Unless, of course, there’s an extreme case of emotional and or physical abuse .
And, in that case, you should be divorcing whether the pandemic is here or not!
Look at your role in the dysfunction. Expose your role. Apologize.
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